Yep, by now you should already know that finding the girl of your dreams is not as easy as lesbian-themed US TV shows may have led you to believe. You have probably also found out that meeting a good one night stand is not that easy either, especially if you want to find someone outside of your small circle of girlfriends and avoid dating the ex’s of your ex’s.

On top of that, we all know that girls-who-like-girls are shy animals: they like to hide, they are not quite visible to a normal gaydar (especially after the hipsters became a household label and sexuality became more fluid) and usually they don’t shout out their sexual availabilities (unless they came out from their cave to party hard at one of the Go Grrrls or Vibe parties).

Did you go to one of the queer woman parties or gay friendly bars in Bangkok, but it didn’t help you to find your queer princess charming?

Then, why not try out one of the multiple techy options available out there. I tried some of them, and these are my impressions – at the end of the day, even The L Word girls had their online chart, right?

Good ‘ole chats and internet dating never die. These are the best places to find new friends,
queer women living near by, hot sex dates or your next dramatic long distance relationship.

Founded in 2006, this is one of the most famous lesbian dating website in Bangkok and Thailand. Despite its basic design, it not only gives you access to a vast glimpse of queer women, both Thai and foreign, resident in Thailand and nearby countries. Iit is also a handy forum to find someone to have a coffee with. It is not a surprise that this website helped a lot of us at the beginning of our lesbian-in-Bangkok adventures!

The cool: you can login and browse the many profiles present here, from the most recently logged in. It’s possible to send friend requests and exchange private messages. Plus, it’s not only a dating website, but gives you some quick tips about being a lesbian in Thailand as well.

The bummer: the chat is stuck with the internet from the 00s and the profile browsing is not optimized for an advanced research a.k.a. you need to scroll all the pages to check out the ladies.

Tips: don’t put your face in here if you don’t want your girlfriend to see.


Oh yeah, the biggest Thai lesbian party also has a website, which works more as a dating hub/forum more than an informative platform, with many chat rooms and boards.

The cool: if you are an expat who can read and write in Thai, a Thai baby dyke or a Tom/Dee couple this is your best virtual place in Thai language to find some female friends. Jing Jing! (Exactly!)

The bummer: despite the sexy homepage and the menu bar, it is all in Thai. Koh jai or mai koh jai? (Understand or don’t understand?)

Tips: Don’t cry over the keyboard missy, if you want to experience the real Thai dykness, where the language will be not limit you (especially after the first bottle of SangSom), go to one of the many Lesla parties!

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Easy to use and easy to browse dating website, for all LGBTQ+ community, divided by countries. The Thailand and South East Asia section is quite developed and worth a try.

The cool: it’s there, it’s queer and it’s present in many countries – for me this can be a good enough guarantee of quality.

The bummer: the number of gay guys is way much higher than the girls, therefore finding your hot date becomes a meticulous research job.

Tips: Try it out and let me know your experiences, I’m curious to know if it really works in Thailand as well!

Honestly, I just googled “dating websites for lesbians in Asia” and this *beauty* came out. From a first (and last) overview, it looks like a porn date website for guys who are looking for “lesbians”.

We can save you some of your precious browsing time by saying ‘stay away’ from this website, unless you want to hook up with one of the half-naked ladies on the webcams.

Are you more a mobile device gal? Do you want to have the “scene” always at your fingertips (a.k.a. you need your artificial gaydar always on your pocket)?

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